The Need to Be Right

IMG_3499I may not always be right, but I’m never in doubt.   – Bob Calvert –

Why is it so important that I be right?  Why do I even think I am always right?  When I think about it, I can remember times when I was convinced I was right only to be embarrassed to find I wasn’t .  For example, when I recently discovered that a check hadn’t been posted in our checkbook, I was convinced that he was the culprit.  And, I let him know it.  However, further investigation revealed that I was the one who had written the unreported check.  Oops!

Whether I am right or wrong, so many arguments could be avoided if I were to adopt a little humility.  Perhaps I can ask myself the famous question, “Would I rather be right or would I rather be happy?”

When my partner expresses a position or opinion that I don’t agree with, I needn’t “set him straight.”  I could just let him have his opinion.  I could simply reply, “That’s interesting.”  or “You may be right.”  It may not be easy.  My ego may scream to argue back, but it’s worth a try.

Today I’ll let peace replace my need to be right.

1 comment to The Need to Be Right

  • Marilyn

    Excellent.When I first heard “would you rather be right or be happy” I though, “well, of course when I convince someone I am right I am happy”. Then I paid attention. I found I never or rarely convinced someone I was right and either way it caused an argument and neither of us were happy in the end. I had a relative that everyone liked to talk to. I listened to find out why. His rejoinder to almost everything that someone said to him was “Is that right?” in a tone of wonder in his voice and as if he wished he had thought of it.He just let the other person talk with eyes of interest and a nod now and then. I had a dear friend who would often reply to what someone said with “Well,that makes sense.” Neither of these men were really agreeing but they weren’t arguing either and people loved to talk to them.

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