Repeating Patterns

For years, we fought, argued, and engaged in very painful emotional exchanges. The words were often different, the situations were different; however, the underlying theme was the same. I felt misunderstood and misjudged. I cried, yelled, and pleaded, trying to get him to understand me. He felt frustrated because I was upset, and he couldn’t […]

Acting As If

For many years my spouse and I acted as if everything was okay; as if we were okay. The problem was that everything was not okay. We were not okay. We were in denial. The trouble with our denial was that we stayed stuck in the muck we were in because we didn’t see that […]