I See You

In the earlier days of our marriage, I did some crazy, immature things and said some unnecessarily hurtful things to my spouse. I didn’t really want to hurt him, even though it felt like it at the time. What I really wanted was for him to see me. So, I cried, I ranted, I accused. […]

Keeping My Opinions to Myself

My husband ran his own business for 40 years. At times he was challenged with employee issues or complex decisions. As we walked at the end of the day, he frequently shared the happenings of his day with me.

Being one who always has opinions, I was tempted to give advice. However, I’ve learned over […]


When my husband talks on any subject, his words often stir up my own dormant thoughts. Profound words of wisdom float from the depths of my subconscious into my brain and right out of my mouth. Another time an experience my spouse shares triggers one of my own “more interesting” memories. I assume that […]

The Gift of Listening

I sit across the table from my spouse in our favorite neighborhood restaurant. He has just returned from a five-day business trip, He chats about what he gained from the trip, the friends he visited with there, the goals he has for his business, and more. How freely he shares about his life and feelings.



By nature, I’m a Chatty Cathy. I seem to have a thought or an experience to share about whatever the topic is at hand. I used to think I was a good listener because I kept engaged in what others were saying. So engaged, in fact that, I anticipated what they were going to say […]

My Full Attention


“So,” I hear him say, “What do you think?” Huh? Oops! What do I think about what? I realize, that somewhere between, “Man, I had a great run!” and, “So, what do you think?,” I’d been off somewhere with my own thoughts – thoughts that I obviously found more engaging than what […]

The Pause


I’m playing an on-line word game with my daughter. I almost have a seven-letter word, which would give me an additional 35 bonus points. I have the word housed. Unfortunately, this leaves me with a T and no extra bonus points. I almost hit the send key for the word housed. But, I pause […]