Shoulds and Oughts

Two words crept into our marriage before the ink dried on our marriage contract. For many years these two words remained unnoticed, surreptitiously and generously gifting the two of us and our daughter with a great deal of misery.

The words? Should and ought. These interlopers insisted on obedience and exacted punishment of all who […]

The Worst That Could Happen

My spouse and I had a time in our lives when we faced complete uncertainty. We were sure we knew what was the best thing that could happen for us in the situation. With this view, we also had a very clear picture of what was the worst thing that could happen. The worst that […]

Humility and Humor


Whew! What a morning. We’re making final preparations for a weekend trip. We plan to leave as soon as we finishing packing the car. I’ve been feeling an unidentified tension in the air. However, I continue to get ready to leave.

As I step out of the shower I hear my husband’s voice. He […]

Different Perspectives

Years ago I heard an abbreviated version of a parable about a group of blind men and an elephant. The blind men were placed at various spots around the elephant and asked to describe the animal. The blind man at elephant’s trunk described the elephant as a giant snake. The man at animal’s broad side […]



This morning I serve myself a heaping dish of humility along with my bowl of granola. It starts when I find my husband’s plate scrapings littering the bottom of the kitchen sink. I feel my arteries tighten and a low growl coming from my diaphragm. No matter how many times I mention to my […]