Long ago I was told by a wise counselor that feelings are neither good nor bad; they just are. She went on to say that feelings are spawned by our thoughts. Thoughts precede feelings. My experience bears this out. Sure, it often doesn’t seem as if a thought precedes a feeling because it can happen […]


Sometimes it’s so much easier to push my feelings down as unimportant rather than to acknowledge them and address them with my life partner. Quite frankly, sometimes I’m a little afraid of his reactions to my feelings. I don’t want to hurt his feelings or make him mad or cause him to worry. So, I […]

What Kind of Energy Am I Extending?

I am not having a good morning. The toilet is stopped up, and several minutes of plunging is not helping it flow. Now, I finish applying my make-up and zip up the bag that holds my make-up (or so I think). I must have been so deep into my daydreams that I didn’t notice that […]


Several years ago, I sit with Dad, my father-in-law of 47 years, in his hospital room. He’s alert and on the mend. I had just read him a page that I had written much earlier about his and Mom’s marriage, of over 67 years. Mom had been dead for 3 1/2 years. When I look […]

The Joys of Affection

I see friends shaking hands saying, “how do you do.”

They’re really saying, “I love you.” . . .

And I think to myself, “what a wonderful world.”

Louis Armstrong

With my spouse beside me I doze off and on as comfortably as I can in the cramped space of my airplane seat. […]


We are discussing what we might want to do this evening. He offers that we could stay home and let him discuss his feelings. Now I know something is up. I wait for it. Then, with his lower lip stuck out with a slight tremble, he shares his feelings. “My foot hurts,” he whimpers. It’s […]