If Only

If wishes made fishes, we’d have a fish fry. Author unknown

Hindsight has shown me that many of the decisions my spouse and I have made over the years did not end up as we had hoped. We especially seem to have a penchant for choosing workers for home repair and remodeling who do […]

Two Wolves

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said: ‘My son, the battle is between ‘two wolves’ inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The […]


My spouse and I recently became aware that two events we had planned to attend fall on the same date. We can do only one. Both events have strong appeal to the two of us. This conflict in events could be a breeding ground for an argument, or it could be a point of connection […]

Making Music Together


Love is the harmony of two souls singing together. Gregory J. P. Godek

Sometimes I’m not at my best behavior. Sometimes he’s not at his best behavior. In other words, sometimes one or both of us is just plain cranky. I once heard this kind of conduct described as non-musical. I love […]

Her Own Voice


She had always thought he was smarter than she was, so she went along with whatever he wanted to do. They had been married for many years before she began to see that she didn’t always agree with his choices. She knew that by stifling her own inner wisdom, she was building resentments […]