To Give is to Receive

Unresolved childhood experiences often result in unhealthy patterns and attitudes that can taint our relationships in adulthood.

One of my earliest memories is of watching my older brothers and cousins — all boys — play together. I felt left out and unloved. I cried and wailed, “You don’t love me!” Another memory is as a […]


He pauses to brush his lips across my neck as he passes by. Ah! Delicious. We walk together as my fingers play a romantic tune in his palm. We both feel the heat.

Affection has been the glue in our marriage of over 50 years. I’ve disliked him at times, even hated him. But, I […]

Many ways to say “I love you”


A good friend of mine, who lost her husband several years ago, is now in a another relationship. Her new partner is not one to use terms of endearment or to give her bouquets of compliments; for example, he has little to say about how nice she looks. One day he told her that […]


Early in our marriage, I sometimes worried that my feelings of affection for my spouse tended to wax and wane. Sometimes I felt delicious affection for him and other times I wanted to be left alone. Where was the “happily ever after?” I remember actually praying for help to love my partner again. My […]

The Joys of Affection

I see friends shaking hands saying, “how do you do.”

They’re really saying, “I love you.” . . .

And I think to myself, “what a wonderful world.”

Louis Armstrong

With my spouse beside me I doze off and on as comfortably as I can in the cramped space of my airplane seat. […]