If I stop and feel what is going on inside of me, what will I find? A swirling cauldron of chaotic thoughts and feelings? Is my mind racing with a long list of things I need to do, problems, regrets? If I’m not feeling quiet within myself, how can I expect to find peace in […]

Reacting or Responding?

Most of the time, I go through my day on automatic pilot, with little thought to what I am doing or why I am doing it. For many routine activities, this is probably just fine. However, I’ve learned over the years, mostly through hard lessons, that some things are deserving of my conscious attention. Otherwise, […]


Denial: an unconscious defense mechanism used to reduce anxiety by denying thoughts, feelings, or facts, that are consciously intolerable.

There may be times when taking comfort in denial helps us get through a difficult time. However, this is not a good place to spend the rest of our lives. An open, honest […]

“Love Casts Out Fear”

“Well, Honey, if you love someone you can’t help but worry about them.” I heard these words many years ago from my Mother-in-law. As I reflect on them, I realize that the reason they stuck in my memory all these years is that I never really bought into them. And, I’m glad I didn’t.