Perfectionism

If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing right.

What!? Who came up with that guilt-producing and self-defeating saying?

This is actually a proverb that reads, “If it’s worth doing it’s worth doing well.” I always heard it, as “things were worth doing right. That put a heavy strain of responsibility on me and a boatload […]

Decisions

Yesterday, my husband and I had plans to meet some friends for dinner and dancing at a local restaurant that features a delightful dance combo. As I walked down the hall toward the bedroom to change clothes for the evening, my bare foot responded with a jerk as it made contact with a waterlogged rug. […]

The Voice of Wisdom

There is a voice within me that wants only that which is for my highest good. It’s the voice that whispers ever so gently that what I really want in our marriage is harmony and what is in the best interest of both of us.

It reminds me that my partner’s bad mood is not […]

The Saboteur in Hiding

Until the last three decades of my life, if you had told me that I was capable of unkind, devious, and mean-spirited thoughts, I would have denied it vehemently. In fact, I would have had my feelings hurt that you could possibly think this of me. I truly believed that I was only sweetness and […]

The Saboteur

I have a saboteur within my mind. It’s the voice of misguided thinking. If I’m not vigilant, it can convince me of its outrageous lies.

For example, it may telI me that I am a victim of my spouse’s bad mood, that I have no role in getting my feelings hurt, and I’m just an […]