Shoulds and Oughts

Two words crept into our marriage before the ink dried on our marriage contract. For many years these two words remained unnoticed, surreptitiously and generously gifting the two of us and our daughter with a great deal of misery.

The words? Should and ought. These interlopers insisted on obedience and exacted punishment of all who […]

Keeping My Thoughts to Myself

The following article is a rewrite of an article posted on April 1, 2017

Married life teaches one invaluable lesson: to think of things far enough ahead not to say them. ~Jefferson Machamer

Over the years I’ve learned the hard way that I don’t have to let every thought I think find its way […]

Teaching Moments

She’s being really difficult. She is our 8-year-old granddaughter, whose world is upside down because she has been outvoted in the selection of a restaurant for our lunch. The seven of us are seated at our table: our granddaughter and her two siblings, her parents, and her Granddad and I. Her mother keeps her tone […]

Slowing Down


(Facebook recently resurrected the following essay, which was written over five years ago.)


We’ve never been here before. We are in Costa Rica. The lodge where we are staying connects with trails winding through forests. We leave our room to go explore the wilderness. We walk a ways and then step […]