Unaddressed resentments can eat away at the foundation of a union like unseen termites gnawing away at the foundation of a house. Do I resent the way my spouse talks to me? Do I feel that I have more to do than my share of household chores? Do I wish she’d spend more time with […]


It’s not about whether you win or lose, but how you place the blame. Oscar Wilde

Oscar Wilde’s twist on another more honorable quote is humorous, but unfortunately, it too often becomes a way of responding in relationships.

I must admit that sometimes my first response when something goes wrong is to blame my spouse. […]

The Need to Be Right

I may not always be right, but I’m never in doubt. – Bob Calvert –

Why is it so important that I be right? Why do I even think I am always right? When I think about it, I can remember times when I was convinced I was right only to be embarrassed to find […]

Working through Conflict

Conflicts are inevitable when two people live together. We each bring our own histories and ways of doing things into the relationship. The way I do things may seem peculiar or even offensive to my spouse and vice versa. What do I do if I find myself feeling resentful of something my spouse does on […]