Gifts of the Spirit

A beautiful, fun, free, and easy way to add sparkle to a relationship is to give small gifts to our partners. I’ve learned much from my spouse in this area. He’s a master of thoughtfulness. He seems to look for ways to make my life easier and more pleasant. For example, after brushing his teeth […]

Getting My Needs Met

“I’m sorry. I don’t understand why you are so upset. I’ve tried, but I just don’t get it. You’ll need to talk to someone else who may understand better than I do.”

This ice-water message came from my husband one evening while I was crying my eyes out over something that I’ve long since […]

Counter Attacks

When I feel hurt by something my partner says or does or does not do, I want to be alert as to how I respond. Too often in the past, I found myself wanting to counter-attack, to hurt him back.

I can be quite subtle in how I choose to hurt him; so subtle, […]