Timing, Place, and Words


Yesterday my spouse came home from work and found me sculpting in my art studio, a bedroom that he had graciously converted for me. I didn’t bother to say ,“Hello,” “How are you?” or “How was your day?” I had one thing on my mind at the moment. Quite abruptly, I said, “I need […]

When We Are in Over Our Heads

About 21 years into our marriage, we hit a brick wall. All our prayers and all of our efforts to resolve a very tenacious problem appeared to have failed. I thought our marriage was over. Neither of us wanted the marriage to end, but we didn’t seem to be able to resolve our problems on […]

Building a Fence by Taking Offense

I’ve heard it said that taking offense can be seen as “building a fence” between myself and another. I need only reflect on the last time I took offense to know how true this is. All meaningful conversation is blocked until I become open enough to consider my own role in an interaction. Am I […]

Taking Offense


No one can put you down without your consent. – Eleanor Roosevelt –

I used to think of the phrase, taking offense, as one word or one thought until a friend points to a deeper way to look at it. She suggests I look at the meaning of each word separately.

Taking her […]